Remote sdk with Vagrant & RVM

I'm having a very similiar issue to the developer that posted on this issue.  http://devnet.jetbrains.com/message/5503736

I've followed all of the solution steps including completely changing files that are owned in the usr/local/rvm directory to vagrant:rvm

My one difference is that I cannot change from RVM to rbenv. I've done everyother setup and I'm still getting the permission denied and then it downloads a bunch of files and Rubymine crashes. At first it was complaining about memory issues so I increased its memory allocation from 128 512 400 to 800, 1200, 1000. (per this post http://www.williambharding.com/blog/uncategorized/setincrease-memory-available-in-rubymine/ since the values made sense for my setup and the project is pretty big.)

any thoughts, any logs I could post to resolve this? I can't use some of RubyMines nifty features without this :/

On ubuntu 14.04 and the VM is ubuntu 12.04