Can't build a gradle project becuase intelliJ is always launching more java.exe processes

Hi,

I have a problem where when I try to build a gradle project with intelliJ it gets stuck on

Starting Gradle Daemon...
Gradle Daemon started in 1 s 536 ms
Starting Gradle Daemon...
Gradle Daemon started in 1 s 466 ms
Starting Gradle Daemon...
Gradle Daemon started in 1 s 495 ms
Starting Gradle Daemon...
Gradle Daemon started in 1 s 494 ms
Starting Gradle Daemon...
Gradle Daemon started in 1 s 495 ms

when I look at my process explorer (https://imgur.com/KoFuj8q) it just keeps launching new java.exe processes

I can provide the gradle and intellij logs if that helps, I tried reading them but to no avail.

https://pastebin.com/qFvjxtXb

https://pastebin.com/eWtsvCBR

Thank you for any help I am desperate.