How do I make the cursor easy to find?

I think I finally figured out why I find Intellij IDEA and Android Studio so annoying to work with: the user interface is by default hyperactive and in your face. I'm slowing figuring out how to turn off options so that I can see the code.

One thing is alluding me. How do I turn off the highlighting of the opening and closing braces that are near the cursor? I find myself constantly misjudging where the cursor is.

Some googling around shows me that I'm not the only one frustrating with the UI. Maybe there should be a an article somewhere explaining how to make the UI so noisy, for us old fashioned programmers?

Aside from the UI clutter, I am finding the smart options helpful for learning Kotlin.

Thanks for your help!